Which situation requires increased attention during couples therapy?

In couples therapy, the presence of frequent critique or defensiveness is indicative of negative communication patterns that can hinder constructive dialogue and problem resolution. The use of critique typically involves assigning blame or making personal attacks, while defensiveness often manifests as a counter-attack or a refusal to take responsibility. This dynamic can escalate conflicts and create a toxic environment, where partners feel misunderstood and unappreciated.

In contrast, the other situations, although also concerning, may not require the same level of immediate intervention. Partners who avoid discussions might be experiencing withdrawal or fear of conflict, which can be addressed through fostering a safer communication environment. Those who dismiss their partner’s feelings may benefit from learning about empathy and validation. Conversely, couples who actively engage in problem-solving are generally demonstrating a willingness to communicate effectively; thus, their situation does not necessitate the same level of intervention as couples entrenched in patterns of critique and defensiveness.