What should the therapist accomplish during the first assessment session?

During the first assessment session, it is crucial for the therapist to focus on understanding the history and narrative of the couple. This foundational understanding allows the therapist to grasp the dynamics of the relationship, including past experiences, significant events, and the couple’s unique perspectives. By exploring their narrative, the therapist can identify patterns of interaction, underlying issues, and the emotional context of the relationship which will inform the therapeutic process.

Understanding the couple's history is key in Gottman’s approach as it helps frame their current challenges. It also enables the therapist to establish a rapport with both partners, making them feel heard and validated. This deep understanding is essential before moving on to assessments of commitment, discussions around the Sound Relationship House, or observing conflict dynamics, as these elements build on the therapist’s grasp of the couple's story.