What is the next step a therapist should take once they've discovered the presence of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse"?

Recognizing the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" in a couple's dynamic is a crucial step in Gottman's Method, and the most effective approach is to directly address these negative interaction patterns. By telling the couple about the presence of the Four Horsemen, the therapist opens up a dialogue that helps both partners understand these harmful behaviors—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and how they impact their relationship.

Identifying these behaviors is important for awareness and allows couples to see the destructive nature of their communication. It gives the therapist a platform to teach more constructive communication strategies tailored to the couple's needs. This direct approach promotes accountability and encourages behavior change, making it possible for couples to begin working toward healthier interactions.

Other options may delay addressing the issue, which could lead to further entrenchment in negative patterns. For instance, waiting to observe more sessions risks confirmation bias and adds unnecessary complexity when immediate identification can spark progress. Addressing trauma, while essential, is not the first step when the focus is on the Four Horsemen and their direct impact on relationship dynamics. Individual sessions may also stifle a couple's opportunity for joint understanding and growth when confronting these patterns.