According to research, what percentage of a couple's problems are fundamentally unsolvable?

Research based on John Gottman's work indicates that a significant portion of a couple's problems, approximately 69%, are often seen as fundamentally unsolvable. This is mainly attributed to the nature of certain conflicts that arise in relationships, such as differing lifestyles, values, personality traits, or family backgrounds. These types of issues are deeply rooted and typically do not have a clear resolution, which can lead to recurring disagreements.

Gottman emphasizes that while these problems may not be solvable, how couples manage and communicate about them is crucial to maintaining a healthy relationship. Successful couples tend to develop strategies to cope with these perpetual issues, focusing on understanding each other's perspectives, respecting differences, and finding ways to coexist with unresolved conflicts. Thus, recognizing that a substantial percentage of problems are unsolvable allows couples to shift their focus from trying to eliminate conflicts to improving their interaction and emotional connection around these issues.